How to End an Extra Marital Affair
Blog / 12/28/2014

How to End an Extra Marital Affair By Kajay Williams   An affair can happen very quickly. One moment, you’re just friends, and the next, you’re involved in a full-blown secret affair. To fully repair your relationship with your spouse – or to let your lover repair their relationship with their spouse, you need to end the affair. This can be difficult, as an affair can involve some intense emotions, needs and wants. But you can do it – here’s how. Think About the Cons When having an affair, it can be easy to get caught up in the romanticism of it. Affairs illicit very strong and intense emotions, as they are clearly tied to feelings of lust – which can make you lose your head and forget the logical reasons as to why you should end the affair. It can be easy to forget all of the bad points of an affair – having to hide what you’re doing, lying to your spouse, feeling guilty for not spending more time with your lover – not to mention having to cancel plans with friends or family in order to spend time with your lover, or hearing from your friends and…

How to End an Emotional Affair
Blog / 11/21/2014

How to End an Emotional Affair By Kajay Williams   Emotional affairs can actually be more difficult to deal with than physical affairs, as although there may not have been any physical contact, the feelings involved in an emotional affair can actually run far deeper than imagined. Emotional affairs can also be difficult to define – because no actual physical boundary has been broken, it can be tough to define what constitutes an emotional affair and what constitutes a friendship. What starts out as an innocent friendship can blossom into something much more, which has the potential to devastate one or both primary relationships. If you come to realize that you are involved in an emotional affair and you want to break it off, these steps should make it a little easier. Go Cold Turkey First things first, to move away from your emotional affair and back into your primary relationship, you need to break off your affair. If you are emailing and texting all the time, that contact needs to stop. The more time spent talking with your friend, the less time spent with your spouse and your family. An emotional affair can become all-consuming, because you feel as…

How to Reveal if Your Lover is Cheating on You by Keeping a Diary
Blog / 11/16/2014

How to Reveal if Your Lover is Cheating on You by Keeping a Special Diary   Our minds aren’t perfect at remembering special details and specific facts – far from it. Our brains work selectively; they store and recall certain bits of information while forgetting others. For example, you might remember – for whatever reason – a phone number that has little or no importance to you, but forget the birthday of someone you really should buy a present for. On the most part, this selective/subjective memory trait creates no real problems in our day to day lives. We can look up a number if we forget it, or ask a friend of a friend for the day of the month on which someone’s birthday falls. However, sometimes it can make things slightly trickier. One such time is when we suspect our partner may be cheating on us. Imagine you walk into the room just as your partner is putting down the phone and they seem a little on edge or tense as they turn around and see you. The incident may stick out in your mind for weeks, niggling at you, making you wonder: did it mean something, was…

Save Your Marriage At All Costs
Blog / 11/08/2014

Save Your Marriage At All Costs   Every individual dreams about the happy and long-lasting married life. However, after a cheerful start of married life, there may be rise of some conflicts and bitterness. The couple starts to fight with each other for simple reasons. Sometimes the bitterness crosses the limits of tolerance and both the partners find it difficult to live with each other. As a result, they tend to think of getting separated. Before taking any final decision, you should think about the consequences of separation. If you realize the importance of marriage, you may think wisely to save your marriage at all costs. Marriage is considered as a lifelong bond which brings a man and a woman together and makes their relationships strong. It has a great importance in the life of every human being as it gives personal and social stability. Marriage is also necessary to satisfy your emotional and physical needs. In some countries, living a single is not accepted by the society and a person living alone does not get social status. The person having a successful married life gets social prestige. Marriage makes the life of human being a complete one. It is…

Warning Signs of an Emotional Affair
Blog / 10/23/2014

Warning Signs of an Emotional Affair By Kajay Williams   An emotional affair is perhaps one of the most devastating types of affairs, as it involves feelings and wants and desires – which can sometimes be more damaging than a purely sexual encounter where there are no feelings involved. The trouble with emotional affairs is that the spouse involved in the affair can feel like they are doing nothing wrong – after all, there is no physical contact involved, and it may never have entered their mind to make the jump from “just friends” to “lovers”. But the spouse’s partner can feel just as betrayed, hurt and cheated in the wake of an emotional affair as they would in the wake of a sexual affair. As with any affair, an emotional affair carries its own warning signs. If you recognize your behavior in the list mentioned below, it could indicate that you are engaged in an emotional affair. You Say Things to Your Friend That You Wouldn’t if Your Spouse Were There This is probably the biggest indicator that you are involved in an emotional affair. If you repeatedly hold conversations with your friend that would not be appropriate in…

8 Types of Affairs: Which Type Of Affair Is Your Spouse Having?
Blog / 10/05/2014

8 Types of Affairs: Which Type Of Affair Is Your Spouse Having? By Kajay Williams   If your relationship has broken down due to an affair, the first thing you might ask your spouse is “Why?” You’ll want to know why the affair happened – how it happened, when it happened and the reasons behind it. While knowing why the affair happened may not make you feel any better about it, it can help you to rationalize the affair and help you to understand why exactly your relationship broke down to that point. Each affair is different and each affair happens for a different reason, but there are some common types of affairs. Here are 8 of the most common types of affairs. 1. Lust Affair An affair based on lust is the most common type of affair – but generally, affairs based on lust also fizzle out more quickly. These types of affairs tend to be secret and could start in a place like the office, where there is the need to keep the affair secret from their spouses but also their co-workers – which adds an extra illicit and sometimes thrilling edge to the affair. Lust affairs are…

Avoidant Personality Type More Likely to Cheat on Their Partner
Blog / 09/18/2014

Are People With Avoidant Personality Disorder More Likely To Cheat On Their Partners? By Kajay Williams   Some people are more likely to cheat than others – that’s just the way the world works. Some people will find it much easier to set aside the boundaries of marriage and embark on more than one relationship than others – but there’s a very good reason why. Recent research has suggested that those with an avoidant personality disorder are more likely to cheat on their spouse. What is an Avoidant Personality? This kind of individual personality tends to have a number of very distinctive personality characteristics. They tend to be socially inhibited and may find it difficult to thrive or even function in a social situation. They also tend to feel inadequate and are especially sensitive to negative comments. But perhaps the most telling characteristic is that the individual tends to be very uncomfortable with closeness – with anyone, not just their romantic partner, and they also tend to have feelings of isolation. This type of personality stems from insecure and isolating relationships when the individual was younger, or throughout their life. Generally, they have a deep-seated need and desire to be…

Save The Marriage For The Children
Blog / 09/16/2014

Save The Marriage For The Children   Getting separated or a divorced seems to be a very simple process, but it leaves a high impact on personal and family life of a person. The person undergoing this process may face lot of pain and stress and lose the personal as well as social stability. It is extremely stressful experience especially for the children of divorcing parents, irrespective of sex and age. They may get mentally disturbed and their future may get spoiled. Hence, it is often advised to save the marriage for the children. Usually, the world of children is limited to their parents and they are totally dependant on their parents for all their needs. What they require in their growing age is affection and protection from their parents. When their parents take the decision of separation, they emotionally may collapse and become restless. When the problem of child custody arise in the court, it may become very difficult for the child to choose one of the parents with whom he/she is supposed to live with in future because the child loves both the parents equally. In case of underage child, the court takes the decision about the custody…

4 Common Reasons Why People Cheat
Blog / 09/01/2014

4 Common Reasons Why People Cheat By Kajay Williams   We all know that people cheat – but why? What is it that drives people to actually stray from their partners? Infidelity is so complex and confusing because people even in the most prestigious positions have destroyed their careers and family by indulging in affairs. Research indicates people have affairs even when they report they are happy in their marriage. In this article, let’s look at a few reasons why people cheat. 1. Oxytocin & Arginine Vasopressin vs Testosterone Part of the answer lies in science. Research has shown us that we possess two hormones that are designed to make us monogamous, oxytocin and arginine vasopressin. Oxytocin is a “happy hormone” that is released in both males and females through touch, sex and other positive social signals, which helps couples to bond in pairs. Arginine vasopressin is a hormone that stimulates male bonding and guarding of offspring – another hugely important factor in bonding and creating a family. But what counteracts this is testosterone – testosterone is associated with libido, as well as high quality genes, which attract women. Testosterone fights against oxytocin and arginine vasopressin, especially in situations where…

Why Women Want Married Men
Blog / 08/26/2014

Why Women Want Married Men By Kajay Williams   If your spouse is having an affair, you might automatically think that the “other woman” is someone in a similar position to your spouse – attached and cheating on their partner. But what you might not realize is that your spouse could be cheating on you with a woman who knew right from the very beginning that he was married – and that’s why she chose him. A recent study has shown that 90% of single women questioned were sexually interested in a man that they believed was married – but that figure dropped back down to 59% when the single women were told he was single. This tells us that married, a man is more attractive than he is single – but why? One of the main reasons that women may actively seek out married men is because it gives them breathing room. A married man is already in a committed relationship with someone else, meaning that the other woman won’t have any demands made on her. She doesn’t have to worry about being committed to her partner and she doesn’t have to answer to him when she wants to…