Should You Tell Your Family About Your Spouse’s Affair?
Blog / 01/19/2012

Should You Tell Your Family About Your Spouse’s Affair? By Kajay Williams   It can be very tempting to discuss your spouse’s affair with your family and friends – after all, an affair can devastate your relationship with the person closest to you, so it’s natural to want to seek support from elsewhere. Often, telling other people about your spouse’s affair can have a detrimental effect on any reconciliation. Your friends and family will naturally want to stick up for you and they may well hold the affair against your spouse forever – which can make it very difficult for a reconciliation to work, especially if your family are totally against the idea. So should you tell your family, friends or children about the affair? Family Generally speaking, you should tread very, very carefully when it comes to telling your family about your spouse’s affair – because it can be very difficult for them to come to terms with how your spouse betrayed you. Your family have your best interests at heart, and they will always stick up for you. While this righteous support can feel good when you’ve only just found out about the affair, as time goes on…

When You Need To Self Heal From The Affair Alone
Blog / 01/19/2012

When You Need To Self Heal From The Affair Alone By Kajay Williams Often, when a couple makes it through the storm of an affair, they emerge a stronger and happier couple. An affair is the symptom of a bigger problem in the relationship and sometimes, when that problem is addressed – albeit through a painful affair – both individuals in the relationship will make an effort to work at any problems before letting them build up into something like an affair. Not all couples will be able to weather the storm, however, and there are a number of scenarios in which the betrayed spouse, the straying spouse or both will have to self heal from the affair alone, without the help of their partner. When the affair simply means that the marriage is over Occasionally, an affair is sometimes the final act of a dying marriage. It can simply be what one partner deems to be the only way out of a marriage that is already failing and unfortunately, in this scenario, no amount of “working through” will heal the marriage. When the trust is shattered by the affair, there seems to be no apparent way to fix it…

How to Tell If Your Spouse Is Lying
Blog / 01/03/2012

How to Tell If Your Spouse Is Lying By Kajay Williams   Open and honest relationships tend to be more successful than relationships where either spouse frequently lies. When one spouse lies to the other, that lie violates the boundaries of an open and honest relationship. Lies can be small and harmless, but they can also be big lies that could seriously damage a relationship. There are a number of body language cues, among other signs, that could indicate that your spouse is lying. If your spouse shows one or two of these signs, it could be meaningless. However, if you repeatedly spot these signs over and over again, it could indicate that your spouse is frequently lying to you. Evasiveness Evasiveness can indicate that your partner is not exactly lying, but they are omitting to tell you the whole truth. To start with, your spouse might not tell you outright lies, but instead, they may be evasive when you ask them questions about their whereabouts and who they’ve been spending time with and they may give you generic answers such as “Just a friend” or “At the pub”. If your spouse seems reluctant to have a conversation with you,…